The Sky is the Limit…Unless You’re an Astronaut

By Suzanne Wiggins

As vowed previously, I am determined to live a brave life going forward. To not live within the safe confines of my comfort zone, but to chart a course to my life’s greatest ambition. Interestingly enough, I did not know what my life’s greatest ambition was until today. It began on Monday. Sitting alone in the office, I innocently clicked a link from my internet home page touting ‘the seven signs of a health problem that you should not ignore.’ All seven signs were very common conditions we have all experienced from time to time, which made the article very unsettling. It was there murmuring to me in the back of my mind the entire day. As I lay in bed trying desperately to fall asleep, I couldn’t help but contemplate the worst. What if I DID have a terminal health condition and had only a short amount of time left?

I was over my fret and worry when I woke up the next morning, but the experience left me feeling like I shouldn’t assume I have unlimited time left to pursue my goals and dreams. So today I decided to re-read one of my favorite books, BE UNSTOPPABLE: The 8 Essential Actions to Succeed at Anything. Penned by a former Navy SEAL, the book is written as a parable for the author’s four sons. I highly recommend it to anyone interested in achieving their heart’s desire. By the time I finished re-reading the second chapter I realized that what I had always assumed was my greatest ambition was just an important step to achieving my ultimate goal. What is most interesting about this sudden realization, is the length of time it has taken to discover or admit this ultimate truth.

It’s funny how we tend to hide or deny the ideas that are most important to us. Perhaps from fear that someone will confirm they are too lofty, silly or unattainable. We only speak of them in whispered voices in fear that acknowledging our deepest dreams and desires may very well jinx our ability to achieve them. Or we imagine we are girding ourselves from disappointment by keeping these desires secret. So here we are, revisiting the concept of fear yet again. Fear of the unknown. Fear of making a bad decision. Fear that leaving behind an unhappy situation will result in even greater unhappiness. Fear that we don’t truly deserve the love we seek to find.

But as I noted, I am choosing the brave path. I could let fear dictate my future, but deep in my heart lies conviction that there are wonderful, amazing, unimaginable opportunities waiting outside the walls of my comfort zone. If I get stuck or scared, I’m simply going to ask myself a series of questions. What if I replaced fear and worry with trust and faith? Why do I believe great things can happen for friends and loved ones, but not for me? What if it were impossible for me to fail?  What if the sky were the limit?

I read something recently, probably on Pinterest, that said, “Everything was impossible until someone did it.” Just because I haven’t achieved my life’s greatest ambition doesn’t mean I can’t or that I won’t. It’s only a matter of wanting and believing. So, I am going to be brave, allow life to surprise me, and have faith that the impossible can happen with persistence. Perhaps the process or route that needs to be followed is not the one I imagined or would choose, but I’m willing to accept that it’s the one necessary to arrive at my destination. I will bravely let go of my perceived control and embrace the adventure of having the course revealed to me. It should be one helluva journey. Feel free to come along.

This Little Light of Mine

By Suzanne Wiggins

I’m afraid. I’m not sure if it is important to know ‘why’ I’m afraid so much as it’s important to acknowledge the fear. I’m sure the root cause is the same for all of us. We fear the unknown. We fear moving outside our comfort level. We fear rejection. We fear attention and would rather remain invisible. We fear the responsibility that comes with achieving our lives’ happiness. We fear what others think. We fear complete and utter happiness because we’re use to being unhappy, and for that matter, we don’t know anyone happy enough to serve as an example. We fear that when and if we achieve our goals, which should result in happiness, it may not be as overwhelming as the  vision we have held in our mind oh so very long. And maybe, just maybe I fear that my secret hope of finding love as a result of finding happiness won’t come to fruition.

I’ve been attempting to discover the key for overcoming my fear and making progress along the trail to happiness. In my heart and head, I want to be brave. To do what’s hard and scary, not live life within the safe confines of my comfort zone. This is much harder, however, than it seems in concept. It’s definitely a matter of trial and error since overcoming fear is individual and unique to each of us. I think the only thing I know for sure is that the more aware we become and the more we attempt bravery, the better we get at making progress even in it’s smallest measure. And by awareness, I mean recognizing those moments when we shrink from the harder of two options.

It’s like the games we played as children. There were those who stuck close to the designated “safety zone” and then there were those few enormously confident souls who would run off to who knows where not seeming to care about the distance back to safety or the increased chance of getting caught or tagged. I would attempt to be one of the brave kids on occasion, but deep down I was a scaredy cat and wanted to be “safe” as quick as possible. But now, many decades later, I am ready to work on truly being a brave soul, because really, was the consequence of not making it back to the safe zone so bad? And how many of us liked being safe only to stand around waiting for the brave kids to reappear? We were rooting for them. We wanted to be like them. So, I’m accepting the challenge of those infamous words, YOU’RE IT! I’m now in charge. I simply need a strategy and to be as wily and brave as those who have sprinted off to places unknown.

Many people have been familiar with Marianne Williamson for some time, but I’ve only just discovered her sage wisdom recently. This quote continually inspires me.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are here for a reason. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are born to make manifest the glory that is within us. It’s not just in some of us. It’s in everyone, and, as we let our light shine we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.  ~ Marianne Williamson

And here’s the bonus – we don’t have to shine brighter than anyone else, we only have to shine OUR brightest. I don’t have to be braver than anyone else, I just have to be as brave as I possibly can and know that is good enough. And remember, becoming good at something is a process and to grow we must continue to try. We all crawled before we walked. We have all stumbled and gotten back up whether it was with help from another or on our own. Never did we decide it was just too hard and simply stopped walking. Think back to a time where you mustered all your courage and did something you deemed as brave and/or out of character. Was it not exhilarating? Did it not make your heart beat fast and your self-esteem grow? Why is it that those examples are so much rarer than the times we hesitated only to step back into our comfort zone and rationalized why it was ok to let the opportunity slip by?

So starting today, I’m going to make being brave a lifestyle choice. I may be afraid and I may on occasion forget not to run straight to the safety zone, but I know that with every brave choice I make, I will grow more confident and become happier.  And after all, isn’t that what life is about?